Money fights rank among the top causes for divorce. And while we never had any knock-down, drag outs about cash before we paid off $127K+, we had a whole lot of passive aggressiveness in our marriage. Here are a few tips to safeguard your marriage while on your own debt slaying journey.
1) Put the Kids to Bed on Time Each Night. You might not have a big date night budget, but you can have intentional time with your spouse on a regular basis. In fact, you’ll need it. It takes some extra effort but establish a family time clock that includes prompt and regular routines to safeguard that evening time.
2) Move Together. Exercise has been a big part of our story. You have to encourage your spouse and be on the move either together or individually. So help make time for it, encourage your spouse to find regular physical activity that they love, and make it easier for each other with no guilt trips and leading by example. Your minds and bodies will thank you for it.
3) Share What You’re Reading. You must, must, must have outside inspiration. I can’t underplay the role that reading good books and listening to good podcasts has had on our journey. We tend not to read or listen to the same things but we always benefit from hearing what the other has learned and been inspired by.
4) Talk About Your Finances. This is kind of duh-huh, but you need to meet regularly to discuss budgets, unexpected expenses, and upcoming challenges on a regular basis. You also need to talk about purchases before you make them. Keep in mind that we’re intense, but we tend to chat on individual purchases that are not regular expenses of $10 or more. A hot marriage begins with a balanced checkbook not in a raucous bedroom.
5) Dream Big. It’s important to talk about your goals on the other side of paying off debt regularly and with great gusto. It helps keep your eyes on the prize of the “why” of what you’re doing. For us this has included everything from chatting about what we might purchase {or need to purchase}, where we might go, and of course how we’re going to give more and save more in a few short months.
6) Remember Your Vows. Always, always, always keep in mind that he or she chose YOU! They are not out to get you, to ruin your life, to make you miserable. You are on a team together and most of all, you L-O-V-E each other. It’s easy to begin to think that you’re contributing more to the battle than your spouse. It’s easy to let division slip into your marriage. It’s hard to be forgiving and come back to the realization that you walked down the aisle for a reason.
We dream of the day of having fights with money, not about money. What are your best tips for money and marriage?
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